Back then, I couldn’t care less if I would date and eventually become in a relationship with someone with different political views.
“It is just politics. It shouldn’t affect the relationship. We will just vote for different people. It shouldn’t be a big deal.”
However, I met people who thought political views mattered in dating. Their arguments sounded right, so I was swayed.
Political views reveal what a person considers just or important.
Think of this: You support a president who is against the death penalty, and then they support a president who wants to wipe out humanity.
It says something about them, right? They don’t care about humans. You are human, so they won’t care about you if you are on the brink of death.
How to Date Someone with a Different Political View
The deeper the relationship gets, the more the differences can cause conflicts, especially when they tie into values and beliefs.
Some differences shouldn’t be an issue, though. If you want to keep the person in your life, below are things you can do.
Don’t Belittle Them for Having a Different Political View
Don’t assume their political views make them ignorant because, most likely, those were influenced by their experiences.
If you insult their beliefs, then you insult their experiences. That will hurt them, and then they will want to be away from you.
Understand Their Reasons Because Political Views Come From Their Background, Values, and Experiences
If you want to know what shaped their beliefs, try to ask about their upbringing, experiences, or influences. If they answer, be attentive.
That way, you also get to know them as a person.
It can make your love for them grow, provided you are not gathering information only to have something to use against them once things go south.
If Their Political Views Deny the Rights or Dignity of Others, That Could Indicate an Immoral Character
If they support views that harm others or deny their rights, that is a moral issue, not just politics. Don’t ignore it even if you love them deeply!
Political beliefs reflect a person’s values, priorities, and idea of how people must be treated and how society should be run.
It is okay to question the relationship and protect your integrity, and your life! If they like seeing people suffer, they might make you suffer on purpose.
Focus on Shared Values to Build a Strong Relationship
If a political conversation will not add value to your relationship, and will just create unnecessary problems, then don’t talk about it.
Focus on the values you share. Politics matter, but it is not the thing that matters the most. Just hug each other and say, “I love you.”
You Can Agree to Disagree to Prevent Petty Arguments
You don’t have to win every argument. If the conversation goes in circles, stop. Accept that you might never agree, and that is okay.
Walk Away If the Differences in Your Political Views Reveal Deeper Ethical Divides
If they support actions or beliefs that harm others, ignore human rights, or promote hate, and they see nothing wrong with it, they are morally corrupt.
You might end up feeling like you are always justifying your beliefs or questioning your own values if you continue. It would be frustrating!
And what if they do something immoral to you, and then they smile scarily while watching you soaked in your own blood?
I don’t even want to imagine it.
